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Fact: I don’t trust women who have few or no female friends.

When I meet a female who tells me that “girls hate her” or that she “doesn’t get along with other women,” I instantly am repelled from being around them.  ”Girls hate me” tends to be code for “I don’t like not being the only girl in the group, so I make sure to only surround myself with males,” and that isn’t okay with me.  It’s one thing if it has just sort of happened—for example, if they were bullied in their youth by girls and are still affected by that—but it’s another if it’s simply because they dislike all other females.

If you say things like “I’m almost exclusively friends with guys,” it doesn’t say “oh, this girl is so awesome and guys love her!”  Instead, it says, “I’m insecure and can’t deal with other females—unless they’re significantly more passive than I—so I try to surround myself with men.”  

Girl hate is something I am desperately opposed to.  I think being rude or cruel to one another purely based on not wanting “competition” is a ridiculous concept, and yet so many females have no idea that that’s why they’re behaving the way they do.  It’s not a jealousy thing—by no means am I saying people like myself and many other girls I know have had these experiences because of our looks or something—it’s just a strange, borderline primal urge to compete with one another.

I know men who have very few male friends, but most of them are gay and have simply had terrible experiences with straight males in the past with bullying and whatnot (I know—it’s fucking 2012, what gives? but that’s a whole other rant).  I can’t think of any guys I know who simply don’t hang out with guys ever, though I’m sure there are some out there.

I admit outright used to be one of those girls.  The majority of my friends were male, though I had a couple of best friends that were females whom I trusted, and I tended to be a giant bitch towards most other women or, at the very least, not want to get close to them.  But then about two years ago, I realized how desperately stupid this was and apologized to several of the girls whom I was unkind to.  In fact, two of them—Katie and Josie—are now my best friends in all of California and I love them to bits.  We always laugh about the fact that we hated one another when we met, but it’s still embarrassing that I used to be such a rancid jerk.  I stopped being friends with another girl who hates other girls because (along with other things) it was so sad to never have any other girls around us.

To simply disregard all females as “bitches” or as “dramatic” is ridiculous.  Plenty of human beings, overall, are insanely dramatic—but that is not a quality mutually exclusive to the vagina-possessors of the world.  It does a disservice not only to women, overall, but to the people who say such things; they are missing out on so many potentially amazing friends just because of the anatomy they possess and the connotations assigned to them.

Of course, I don’t deny that a lot of it is based on the fact that, as females, we have to try so much harder to be fairly treated whether it’s in the media’s representations of us, the job market, or relationships in general, but that doesn’t mean our treatment of one another has to reflect this.  In fact, not to get all kumbaya on you folks, but if we act supportive and happy for other females, a lot of that “fair treatment” thing will improve.

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“She could do her homework in pen, but she chooses not to, cause that would just be showing off. When she gets bored in class and it looks like she’s not paying attention, that’s because she’s a chapter ahead of everyone else, double-checking her answers. “Show your work” is seen as a challenge either because it’s all in her head (how do I show you neurons firing?) or because she has to choose the most elegant solution. If a train leaves Chicago at 2 p.m., she’s the engineer.” (From ThinkGeek)

“She could do her homework in pen, but she chooses not to, cause that would just be showing off. When she gets bored in class and it looks like she’s not paying attention, that’s because she’s a chapter ahead of everyone else, double-checking her answers. “Show your work” is seen as a challenge either because it’s all in her head (how do I show you neurons firing?) or because she has to choose the most elegant solution. If a train leaves Chicago at 2 p.m., she’s the engineer.”

(From ThinkGeek)

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I think there was a perception that we were trying to do something politically ambitious or make a statement or make this a show about empowering women, which sounds super boring to me. That sounds like a documentary, which this certainly is not. This is more like Chicago, Moulin Rouge and All That Jazz, Desperate Housewives. This is a fun, sexy soap.

- The Playboy Club’s showrunner Chad Hodge on why TPC was cancelled and how “shows about empowering women” are “super boring”

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Beyonce wants to find a new word for "feminist" ⇢

So, yet another person who wants to appear supportive of women yet is afraid of the connotation of being a “feminist”…as though being a feminist is some dirty word equivalent of being a facist.  Because, y’know, being a feminist is fulfilling the role of “feminazi” which is, like, just sooooo uncool.

Obviously, people have pointed out that the word “feminazi” is ridiculous considering the idea of caring about gender equality is not, uh, the equivalent of committing genocide, I’m sure I don’t need to point out the absurdity of the term.  I do, however, feel the need to point out the fact that calling feminists “feminazis” is just another way of saying, in quite the cowardly non-outward manner, that the goal of gender equality is ridiculous and should be considered similar to oppressing males.  As though taking one look at advertising, salary equality, sex crime statistics, and the treatment of females in countries other than the US don’t yield the same results all around: the treatment of women =/= the treatment men.

It bothers me that the word “feminist” is seen as an alienating term.  Sorry, but if you’re worried that your fans won’t support you if you support gender equality, then I don’t give a fuck about your success.  You’re a semi-cowardly person who’s terrified of voicing strong opinions.  That’s the equivalent of saying forty years ago, “I’m not anti-segregation, but I wish there was another way of saying that” just in order to not alienate the crowd that loves Jim Crowe laws and/or non-law related racism.

Oh Beyonce, you wanna find a “catchy” new word for feminism?  You wanna call it “bootylicious” after one of your bands effing songs?  You want to name “gender equality” after a song involving flaunting the derriere for people who will “handle” you and “like what they see,” really?  Because that’s fairly ridiculous in nearly every single way.

I get so irritated when people say things like, “I’m totally a feminist but like, minus the body hair and anger issues.”  Not only is that (1)absolutely ridiculous to assume feminism entails any specific code of appearance, but it also (2)implies feminists have personality disorders for being displeased with the state of the world for women.  Additionally, if you’re actually a “feminist,” you won’t judge people for something as trivial as their effing body hair—criticisms which I’ve witnessed people who would hate it if somebody insulted their weight or physical appearance in any way—and it makes me bummed out that so many people, including some men, refuse to utilize the word “feminist” for fear of the connotations it might produce in the eyes of others.

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Question: Why do magazines and advertisements that involve “plus-size” models always insist that the women are nude, sexually suggestive, or full-on sexualized? Don’t get me wrong; I’m all about fashion getting its head out of its ass and ceasing to enter the 21st century where it’s generally known to be unacceptable to create an “ideal” body type for people (especially women, considering females have long been the targeted audience for a large percentage—not all, of course—the beauty industry).  However, Vogue Italia’s “Bella Vere” spread for its July issue irked me. Look at most of the ads involving non-size 2 models.  Look at ‘em.  Most of them include those women in their underwear.  Granted, most models are sexualized in some way some or much of the time, but plus-size models are consistently put into sexual poses, lingerie, or are nude and so rarely are put into campaigns or editorials without those qualifications.  It’s ridiculous.  Jezebel.com had an interesting article about this a while ago, as well. It’s admittedly frustrating because not only are women who are not 5’11” and 118 lbs. are underrepresented (i.e. most women on earth), but also that the only way that other body types can be represented is if it’s sexually.  It feels like either (1)women with larger hips, thighs, breasts, stomachs, etc. are inherently sexual or (2)those in the fashion world see art that features those body types as being non-marketable unless they’re sexualized, which is ridiculous. And on that note, it also irritates me more than I can say that the term “plus-size” exists, as though there’s this little finite line between being “normal” sized and “abnormal” sized—and depending on the stores you frequent, this changes.  Some people consider 8-10 plus-size whereas others consider it to be 12-14 and up.  The idea that there should be a specific name for a range of sizes is ridiculous; the sizes themselves are already in order, why the hell do we need to categorize them into a Normal vs. Larger-than-normal sort of deal?  In addition to making a huge number of women feel excluded, it also causes there to be a stupid gap between “typical,” very thin models and plus-size models—leaving anybody who is somewhere in the middle to get lost without any representation for their body types in the fashion industry. I’m a size 8-10 with big hips and boobs and slightly flabby arms but a small-ish waist and a not-particularly-defined jawline—where’s somebody who looks like me?  It’s “acceptable” and even desired to have unique facial features like little scars or freckles or teeth with gaps or thick brows; why is it not desired to have unique body features like asymmetrical boobs or some cellulite or a huge ass?  It’s ridiculous that systems seem generally good-to-go provided the model fits the bodily proportions people want them to.  Which is…ridiculous. So, uh, what the fuck?

Question: Why do magazines and advertisements that involve “plus-size” models always insist that the women are nude, sexually suggestive, or full-on sexualized?

Don’t get me wrong; I’m all about fashion getting its head out of its ass and ceasing to enter the 21st century where it’s generally known to be unacceptable to create an “ideal” body type for people (especially women, considering females have long been the targeted audience for a large percentage—not all, of course—the beauty industry).  However, Vogue Italia’s “Bella Vere” spread for its July issue irked me.

Look at most of the ads involving non-size 2 models.  Look at ‘em.  Most of them include those women in their underwear.  Granted, most models are sexualized in some way some or much of the time, but plus-size models are consistently put into sexual poses, lingerie, or are nude and so rarely are put into campaigns or editorials without those qualifications.  It’s ridiculous.  Jezebel.com had an interesting article about this a while ago, as well.

It’s admittedly frustrating because not only are women who are not 5’11” and 118 lbs. are underrepresented (i.e. most women on earth), but also that the only way that other body types can be represented is if it’s sexually.  It feels like either (1)women with larger hips, thighs, breasts, stomachs, etc. are inherently sexual or (2)those in the fashion world see art that features those body types as being non-marketable unless they’re sexualized, which is ridiculous.

And on that note, it also irritates me more than I can say that the term “plus-size” exists, as though there’s this little finite line between being “normal” sized and “abnormal” sized—and depending on the stores you frequent, this changes.  Some people consider 8-10 plus-size whereas others consider it to be 12-14 and up.  The idea that there should be a specific name for a range of sizes is ridiculous; the sizes themselves are already in order, why the hell do we need to categorize them into a Normal vs. Larger-than-normal sort of deal?  In addition to making a huge number of women feel excluded, it also causes there to be a stupid gap between “typical,” very thin models and plus-size models—leaving anybody who is somewhere in the middle to get lost without any representation for their body types in the fashion industry.

I’m a size 8-10 with big hips and boobs and slightly flabby arms but a small-ish waist and a not-particularly-defined jawline—where’s somebody who looks like me?  It’s “acceptable” and even desired to have unique facial features like little scars or freckles or teeth with gaps or thick brows; why is it not desired to have unique body features like asymmetrical boobs or some cellulite or a huge ass?  It’s ridiculous that systems seem generally good-to-go provided the model fits the bodily proportions people want them to.  Which is…ridiculous.

So, uh, what the fuck?

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This is the comic strip, drawn by Alison Bechdel and published in 1985, that popularized the Bechdel Test. The test itself seems to have exploded in popularity in recent years - you can now find countless YouTube videos about it, and a site dedicated to cataloging movies’ scores.

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thinkbubble: marmiteforkids: clitoritastic: gummygumzyumz: This is my photograph. This is my body. This is my menstrual blood. I took it for a introductory digital photo class, submitted for a texture and balance assignment.  I think I got a B. It’s art. It shows reality. It shows part of who I am. It shows part of who most people on the earth are.  There is a ridiculous amount of notes on this, and I am proud to have taken a photograph that many enjoy. To those who like this photograph: Here is my final project for the same class, it is a series of 15 photographs of women, myself included, and its purpose is to show the natural variety in areolas and nipples. Also, let me take this opportunity to promote the feminine hygiene product I use: The Diva Cup. It’s the most economical option, and if you care about the amount of waste you produce using tampons, it is a wonderful alternative. It is made of silicone. Doesn’t silicone sound so much nicer than cotton? It is :) ——————————————————————————————————————-This photo was also blogged here, and was generally received negatively.  Let me post some of my favorite comments in the reblogs: why do people feel its necessary to make posts about ovulation fuck you your pussy wont be the only thing bleeding if you dont shut the fuck up and women wonder why there is no equality for them. they do dumb shit like this this is plain disgusting. i find my own period horrid enough, i don’t need to see other people’s as well thanks EW WHAT THE FUCK. PERIODS ARE VILE, GROSS, PAINFUL, AND UNNEEDED WHY CANT OUR VAGINAS JUST SEND OUT A LITTLE NOTE THAT SAYS WE NOT PREGNANT?! lol jk that’s not possible. But I still hate my period. Ishh periods are fucking gross.  They hurt, they make women mean and lethargic, period tissue smells like a dead animal and on top of it all, its unsanitary.  So nobody wants to see that shit.  Including other women.  And especially men, who oppress women.  Put a tampon in it and act fucking normal and maybe we’ll have some progress. ^^^ WHY IS IT ON HER LEGS? EW EW EW. &gt;                     (Um, do they think this is a candid shot?)  I understand, most people do not find blood beautiful, and it would be ridiculous for me to think that everyone would feel “fine” with looking at this photograph- what bothers me that it is being received by some as offensive because it’s menstrual blood. A great deal of the people reblogging this and adding “grossed out” comments also reblog shittons of self-injury photographs. Because blood is only gross when it comes from a vagina. Grow up, you fucks. Nevermind, the majority of tumblr users are 14 years old. Maturing might not be feasible. Not while you still think your own period is “horrid”. Woo menstruation or something. I like this picture a lot. That is damn beautiful, I love how you can see the prickling of the skin, and the textures are all just stunning! i mean yeah, its kinda gross, but its the human body, and it happens to over half of the human population at some point in our lives. maybe periods are gross and messy but they’re completely natural and they dont hurt anything (except maybe a nice pair of underwear occasionally). its a lot better than if that shit stayed up there!! its our body, and we should appreciate all the little quirks, including the ones that make us feel like complete shit. there will be no progress unless you can learn to love yourself and promote that. so yay periods :) I really love this.  It&#8217;s always really irritated me when people are grossed out by periods.  It&#8217;s a fucking period.  Menstruation is a necessary function for creating new life.  It&#8217;s idiotic when men are bothered by periods&#8212;hey, guess what, your girlfriend, mother, sisters, daughters, female friends, etc. will all have it!  All of &#8216;em! And your bitching and rude protests of &#8220;GROSS!&#8221; probably won&#8217;t be changing that anytime soon.  But when females are bothered by periods, that especially upsets me&#8230;yes, they can be pretty inconvenient sometimes, but they&#8217;re wonderful things, when you think of their function.  And certainly nothing to be ashamed of.  This whole &#8220;female bodily shame and self-hatred&#8221; shit makes me so sad.  When 50% of the world&#8217;s population has or will have this happen to them on a regular basis, there is really, really no fucking reason to hate ourselves for it. Oh, and seeing blood between a chick&#8217;s legs isn&#8217;t going to kill you.  If you&#8217;ve been on the internet as long as most people, you&#8217;ve probably seen much worse&#8212;including blood that comes from wounds rather than blood that simply comes from the body of half the fucking people you know every single month.  So chill.  It&#8217;s just a period.  Hate it?  Then scroll past.  But just know that it&#8217;s not a big deal.

thinkbubble:

marmiteforkids:

clitoritastic:

gummygumzyumz:

This is my photograph. This is my body. This is my menstrual blood. I took it for a introductory digital photo class, submitted for a texture and balance assignment.  I think I got a B. It’s art. It shows reality. It shows part of who I am. It shows part of who most people on the earth are.  There is a ridiculous amount of notes on this, and I am proud to have taken a photograph that many enjoy.

To those who like this photograph:

Here is my final project for the same class, it is a series of 15 photographs of women, myself included, and its purpose is to show the natural variety in areolas and nipples.

Also, let me take this opportunity to promote the feminine hygiene product I use: The Diva Cup. It’s the most economical option, and if you care about the amount of waste you produce using tampons, it is a wonderful alternative. It is made of silicone. Doesn’t silicone sound so much nicer than cotton? It is :)

——————————————————————————————————————-This photo was also blogged here, and was generally received negatively.  Let me post some of my favorite comments in the reblogs:

  • why do people feel its necessary to make posts about ovulation fuck you your pussy wont be the only thing bleeding if you dont shut the fuck up
  • and women wonder why there is no equality for them. they do dumb shit like this
  • this is plain disgusting. i find my own period horrid enough, i don’t need to see other people’s as well thanks

  • EW WHAT THE FUCK. PERIODS ARE VILE, GROSS, PAINFUL, AND UNNEEDED WHY CANT OUR VAGINAS JUST SEND OUT A LITTLE NOTE THAT SAYS WE NOT PREGNANT?! lol jk that’s not possible. But I still hate my period. Ishh

  • periods are fucking gross.  They hurt, they make women mean and lethargic, period tissue smells like a dead animal and on top of it all, its unsanitary.  So nobody wants to see that shit.  Including other women.  And especially men, who oppress women.  Put a tampon in it and act fucking normal and maybe we’ll have some progress.
  • ^^^ WHY IS IT ON HER LEGS? EW EW EW. >

                    (Um, do they think this is a candid shot?) 

I understand, most people do not find blood beautiful, and it would be ridiculous for me to think that everyone would feel “fine” with looking at this photograph- what bothers me that it is being received by some as offensive because it’s menstrual blood. A great deal of the people reblogging this and adding “grossed out” comments also reblog shittons of self-injury photographs. Because blood is only gross when it comes from a vagina. Grow up, you fucks. Nevermind, the majority of tumblr users are 14 years old. Maturing might not be feasible. Not while you still think your own period is “horrid”.

Woo menstruation or something.

I like this picture a lot.

That is damn beautiful, I love how you can see the prickling of the skin, and the textures are all just stunning!

i mean yeah, its kinda gross, but its the human body, and it happens to over half of the human population at some point in our lives. maybe periods are gross and messy but they’re completely natural and they dont hurt anything (except maybe a nice pair of underwear occasionally). its a lot better than if that shit stayed up there!! its our body, and we should appreciate all the little quirks, including the ones that make us feel like complete shit. there will be no progress unless you can learn to love yourself and promote that.

so yay periods :)

I really love this.  It’s always really irritated me when people are grossed out by periods.  It’s a fucking period.  Menstruation is a necessary function for creating new life.  It’s idiotic when men are bothered by periods—hey, guess what, your girlfriend, mother, sisters, daughters, female friends, etc. will all have it!  All of ‘em! And your bitching and rude protests of “GROSS!” probably won’t be changing that anytime soon.  But when females are bothered by periods, that especially upsets me…yes, they can be pretty inconvenient sometimes, but they’re wonderful things, when you think of their function.  And certainly nothing to be ashamed of.  This whole “female bodily shame and self-hatred” shit makes me so sad.  When 50% of the world’s population has or will have this happen to them on a regular basis, there is really, really no fucking reason to hate ourselves for it.

Oh, and seeing blood between a chick’s legs isn’t going to kill you.  If you’ve been on the internet as long as most people, you’ve probably seen much worse—including blood that comes from wounds rather than blood that simply comes from the body of half the fucking people you know every single month.  So chill.  It’s just a period.  Hate it?  Then scroll past.  But just know that it’s not a big deal.

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